It Began When…
She was a quiet little girl of 3 yrs & it was her first year of nursery school. The new teachers weren’t anything like the older women who babysat for her at home. Here the teachers had clear favorites. She knew by the way that they made fun of her that she wasn’t one of them.
She went home humiliated & afraid to talk with her mom about this awful experience, and she began yelling at her dolls. Finally, after witnessing unexplained behavior changes and a total lack of communication from the teachers, her mom withdrew her. But the damage was done.
I was that little girl. And I’ll never forget that feeling of loneliness, shame and fear as I looked out at the room from my cot while the other kids and teachers looked back at me.
Whenever I see that same look of pain in a child’s eyes, I feel it deeply. And knowing that the pain is avoidable is at the heart of my work with children today.
Luckily my next preschool teacher saw ME – as a unique individual with preferences and feelings. Instead of reprimanding me when I didn’t understand, she guided me to find my own voice. I could get help with solving problems without fear of punishment – and when I knew the answer, I could feel proud that “I did it!”
I started MonicaJSutton.com because I believe parenting is about embracing the journey of getting to know your child and guiding them to be their best selves, wherever they are in their development.